I was meandering through Pinterest on my lunch wondering why I am having such a difficult time finding things to write about. It seems like I have a rush of really great ideas (well, at least I think they’re pretty awesome) at night while I am getting ready for bed and by the time morning comes the passion I felt for my potential blog post is gone. Poof.
I came across a pin entitled “Finding your niche.” While this post pertained exclusively to blogging and the blogging community, my brain started to wander (as it often does) to the idea and importance of finding you niche in life. From the time we are young-ins were are constantly fighting to find our place in this big bad world. Some of us just slide into our passions easily. Almost without effort. Others, like myself, stumble around drifting aimlessly for what seems like an eternity before we find something, someone, or some place that really speaks to us and who we want to be.
I can honestly say, at the age of 26, I had absolutely no idea what I REALLY wanted out of life until recently and even now sometimes I am not sure…and that’s okay.
I feel like the pressure to figure out how you are going to live your life is so immense that often times our happiness is cast to the side in a feeble attempt to appease our critics. In my humble (sense the sarcasm) opinion, I think people work to support their lives but forget to actually live. So many of us get trapped in a mundane cycle of our habits. Get up, get dresses, drive to work, work all day, go home, make dinner, shower, go to bed, toss and turn, etc. Obviously the routine varies a bit here and there but the general execution of these activates are similar, day in and day out. Whatever happened to living, truly LIVING!
I often found I was envious of my fellow classmates for knowing what they wanted to do with the rest of their lives right out of High School. I know now that the majority of those classmates had no more a clue than I did. Some spent thousands upon thousands of dollars attending classes to earn degrees for careers they really didn't care for all for the sake of appearing normal. Clearly, I have no fear of what others think of me or my decisions. I have always been the ugly duckling, black swan, *insert your favorite underdog analogy here*- and I’m okay with that. My point is, finding your niche is never an easy task but finding your niche can be that much harder when you are working so feverishly to gain the acceptance and approval of others.
Finding your niche means accepting yourself for everything you are and being open to the possibility that your niche may not be something that everyone agrees with or approves off. Life isn't about who’s winning and who's losing, it’s about living and the only way to truly live is to surround yourself with people, places, and things that make you happy.
There have been many times in my life where I have felt ashamed or embarrassed of where my life has led me. What I've learned is; no matter how desperately you try to achieve acceptance of others, there will ALWAYS be someone waiting in the wings to pass new judgement and ridicule your way. Finding my niche meant ignoring the nay-sayers and forging my own path. It meant doing things a little differently, my way. Don’t get me wrong, I am still learning but thankfully I think I am on the right track.